Working in senior living, I’m surrounded by mothers, grandmothers and great-grandmothers on a daily basis. The 96 women living in our Lodge each have a unique experience raising children. As Mother’s Day approaches, the Eskaton staff plan special events to honor these woman. This year will be a high tea and a children’s dance performance May 8 at 2 pm.
We asked our residents to reminisce about Mother’s Day and here is what we heard:
Mother’s Day is “a day that I could set aside and love and respect my mother in a special way,” said Helen Long.
Jeri Beringsmith, mother of three grown children said, “I like to be with my kids on Mother’s Day, even if it is the daughter I see all the time.”
If you are wondering what your children think of your mothering, “It’s a day to recognize if we did a good job,” said Medrine Plette. She also uses the day to recognize the great mother she had.
Sometimes it’s not until you are a parent do you recognize the importance of your own mother or grandma. Beringsmith was surprised when she heard her grandson, who was a new dad, say, “Wow, now I understand the troubles you had.”
Some of the best stories come from reflecting on the past. Nellie Belfiore shared a touching story with us:
“I really adored my mother. We went everywhere together. The first job I had I made $11.88 per week. I kept a dollar aside and gave the rest to my mom because it was the depression. Times were tough and we needed things like food. The dollar I kept I put away and saved until I had enough to buy my mom a wicker rocking chair. I can still see her sitting in that chair and falling asleep. I love her very much and still wish sometimes that I could see her.”
But a moment doesn’t go by around here without a little humor, especially from Jean Humburg:
“My son always gets me elaborate flower arrangements -- he has a gift complex. One year I asked for Maine lobster instead of the flowers. That year the delivery man dropped off a big parcel on ice, and when I opened it there it was: A whole, live Maine lobster with claws the size of ping pong paddles. I had to borrow someone’s canning pot because I didn’t have anything big enough to cook the guy. I put him in there and I still remember his claw coming out, reaching out of the pot. By the time it was over I was so emotionally distressed I said next time just send flowers.”
If you are looking for something extra special and unique to do for your mom this year, and you are reconsidering sending her a lobster, choose one of these creative ideas:
- A day at the spa – Spend time with your mom getting a massage and facial, or a mani and pedi. Even a son can enjoy a pedicure every once in a while for the sake of his mom.
- Pack a picnic – Take your mom to the park. Or if she has limited mobility, bring the picnic to her.
- Give a tribute – Your mom inspired you in many ways. Tell her about the little things she did that you now appreciate.
- Get her connected – You may think mom isn’t tech savvy, but you are probably wrong. No one is too old to learn. Get her a tablet or iPad. She will quickly learn Skype or FaceTime when she realizes it is the best way to see her grandchildren grow up.
- Enter your favorite recipe of hers into the Eskaton recipe contest. The winning recipe will be highlighted on the TV show Sac and Company. Visit eskaton.org/mothersday for more info.
My mom taught me: “People always come before things.” I have taken this philosophy with me through life. Thank you mom for your support and encouragement. Here is to all the moms out there.